All You Really Need To Prepare For Baby

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Post by Contributing Writer, Lydia.

It’s not surprising that, during these long days of homeschooling and homemaking and knitting and blogging and making lists that will never be completed, I can sometimes forget.

Sometimes it takes a glance in the bathroom mirror I am wiping down to jolt me back to reality, or those soft tap, tap, taps in the still of the evening after everyone else has fallen asleep to remind: I’m pregnant.

With my first baby, every day I would log online and read (often ahead) about my baby’s development, what to expect at my next doctor’s appointment, how my body would grow and change.  Even with my second baby, I’d read everything I could get my hands on regarding birth choices and newborn procedures.

But this, this is baby number five. I know what diapers I’ll be using, and roughly how large the baby is at this gestational age.  I know what baby carrier I will carry him/her in, and I know how my body births babies.

This time around I am more consumed with adding a new set of bunkbeds to our collection, the need for more storage, and how can we possibly add another person to our already stuffed little house?

All of those things, however, don’t really matter.  None of it really does. The truth is, all you really need for a baby is this: You.

Somehow all the rest will work out.  Babies come whether or not there is a dresser for their clothes, or a car seat waiting ready in the car.

What a baby really needs is a Mama who is relaxed, ready, unharried, peaceful. Why is it that, sometimes, those are the hardest things of all?  Letting go and accepting that even if that fresh coat of paint in the bedroom doesn’t happen, everything will be just fine. As long as you are there, you can push those expectations aside and just let yourself fall in love.

This pregnancy, I’ve been striving towards a more mindful place – a place of being fully here, absorbing every beautiful moment of this very special time in my life.  Who would want to miss those little flutters each evening, little hands on my belly, whispers to baby within?

In all the hustle and bustle and even stress of bringing a new member into a family, these moments can be lost – rushed by.  If I have learned one thing from raising the four I have is that this moment is a vapor – already gone even as you try and hold onto it.

So here I am, hoping to still and savor this miracle.

This post is part of Finer Things Friday at Amy’s Finer Things.

Lydia is Mama to 4 (soon to be 5!) little ones, wife to a wonderful husband, knitter, writer, grace-seeker and beauty chaser.  You can catch up with Lydia daily at Small Town Simplicity.

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14 comments to All You Really Need To Prepare For Baby

  • This post is so incredibly timely for me. I am pregnant with my third, my daughter is 2 and my son is 1. I get so caught up in the daily stuff that sometimes I forget that there is another little blessing in there. Yesterday, as my children napped, I laid on the couch and felt my tiny precious baby move for the very first time. It brought the reality of this sweet baby right to the forefront and suddenly I was overcome with joy and gratefulness. All our children do need is or love and the Lord. Everything else will fall into place. Thanks for the great affirmation.

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    Michele Reply:

    @Regina Murphy, Oh, hooray! :) What a joyous moment. Congratulations!
    Blessings,
    Michele

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  • I’m pregnant with my first and really needed to hear this… Thank you! :)

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    Michele Reply:

    @Mariposa, Congratulations! :) Blessings to you & your precious little one on the way.
    Michele

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  • Thank you. I have felt the same way expecting my third baby. I’ve come to the decision not to stress too much, but I also feel guilty occasionally when I’m not buying enough to fill a beautiful new nursery. (This baby will sleep in a used Pack N Play in my bedroom.) I’m glad for your perspective that approaching a new baby in a peaceful way is not only good for me, but good for baby as well.

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    Michele Reply:

    @Joanna @ Starving Student Survivor, I’ve loved reading your blog, and I know you will give your little one everything he/she really needs. :) Congratulations on this new little life!
    Blessings,
    Michele

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  • Linda

    Very true. I’m a mama of 2 (8yr old daughter and 5 yr old son)……and too old to have another one since I started so late. All the ‘stuff’ you buy for your baby is just that…..stuff. Yes, it’s fun and, by all means, enjoy it. But all that baby really needs is your love and care. They grow up fast. Enjoy the baby time while it lasts:-)

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  • Thank you all for your comments! It is hard to remember sometimes for sure, and yes there is nothing wrong with decorating a beautiful nursery and enjoying all of that, too. But when stress mounts, its time to remember that everything the baby truly needs, you already have.

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    Michele Reply:

    @Lydia, Oh, Lydia, Thank you so much for writing this. I’ve been savoring these thoughts. :)

    Blessings,
    Michele

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  • Wonderful reminder for all of us. I’m pregnant with #5 and have done nothing much to prepare for this one because it just doesn’t seem like I need to do much. But then someone asks me what I need, or if I have her clothes ready, and I feel the pressure. Why?

    Great post!

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  • ashley

    I just found out that my husband and I (who have been married all of 6 weeks) are expecting our first.. the news really hasn’t sunken in yet, but it is so wonderful to think of the blessing given to us. thank-you.

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    Michele Reply:

    @ashley, Congratulations! Blessings to you & your husband on this new journey.

    Michele :)

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