Post by Contributing Writer, Lydia
I was young then, expecting my second baby. I had joined a Mom’s group to make friends and garner support. Although everyone was very nice, I felt a little out of place – at the time, I was 20 years old, expecting my second baby. Almost everyone else was thirty or older.
I spent most of my time that year just sitting and listening to veteran wives and mothers give hints and tips on how it all works. Oddly enough, the only one I remember is also the most simple.
The discussion was marriage, and although I don’t remember her name 7 years later, I remember her words. She said “My husband and I decided a long time ago to simply be kind to one another.”
Simply be kind. It was indeed simple, but her words seared in my brain and I have thought of them often ever since. I know that there can be power in simplicity, and in that moment it was as if a lightbulb went on.
Of course. If we are first kind to one another, just imagine how lovely life could be!
If I first remembered to be kind before words of frustration left my lips; if I intentionally greeted him with kindness at the end of each day. If I chose kindness instead of irritation when things don’t turn out how I expect. Not only would I bless my marriage, but, in the process, I myself would be blessed.
Within the trenches of family life – juggling children, work, school, extracurriculars – it can be easy to live through reaction instead of with intention and purpose. Prioritizing kindness does take time, but the benefits are truly limitless.
So, for today, give it a try. Simply be kind.
Lydia is Mama to 4 (soon to be 5!) little ones, wife to a wonderful husband, knitter, writer, grace-seeker and beauty chaser. You can catch up with Lydia daily at Small Town Simplicity.