Intentional Family

So often I fall into a mindset of wanting my wife and kids to be simply “good” people, who are kind members of society. I can (barely) handle being that kind of dad. I can show my kids how to be kind, right?

But I’m beginning to see how God has a much grander vision for their souls. He yearns for my wife and kids to know Him intimately and be changed by Him.

On her blog Keeper of the Home, Stephanie Langford has a post written by her husband Ryan, where he writes about why he has chosen to give of his resources to Compassion International. For him, it all came down to stewardship – faithfully investing the resources given him by God.

Today I want to chase a thought his post started in my head. He not only did a great job writing about Compassion International, he also mentioned being a steward of his family.

Wait a second, what does that mean? How am I entrusted with the members of my family, and how do I invest (in the full business-sense of the word) in their lives?
As a small business owner, two words help me to grasp what Ryan was talking about: investment and intentionality.

To invest is to entrust what is in your possession to someone else, hoping for a benefit in return. At the heart of investment is trust and sacrifice.

The thing is, I can’t lead my family into this on my own. I need to entrust. I need to sacrifice.

In order to practice good family stewardship by cultivating God-relationships, I need to get out of the way.

As with all the other arenas of life, God can do so much more when I let go of my pride and let Him work through me.

I don’t know all the answers to being a spiritual leader, so why don’t I surrender and trust God to work in me His design?

This path next leads me to sacrifice. I need to sacrifice what I think is important for what God knows is important.

This involves quality time with my kids over Bible pages. Answering the deep questions of a four-year old in a way she can understand. Stopping the avalanche of a bad day to pray with my wife. What could this look like in your life?

I have seen firsthand how important it is to be intentional in my family stewardship.

The nature of our business is to invite complete strangers into our home. This often involves the spiritual baggage (bondage, really) that they bring in with them.

After a conversation with curious “drop-in” visitors one night, we stopped what we were dong, and prayed for these people. Then we prayed that Jesus would establish His kingdom and expel any spirit contrary to His kingship.

We were intentional.

As parents and/or spouses, we can’t afford to shrug off our responsibility to be stewards of our family. All of this won’t just happen by accident or luck. Don’t bury what’s been given to you. Be intentional.

What’s the benefit we hope for? For God’s kingdom to be established in the hearts of our family, so they know the joy and freedom of know Him.

[Michele’s Note: To read more about this concept of intentional prayer and spiritual battles, I highly recommend the book Walking With God by John Eldredge.]

Calvin is a dad of two munchkins and the husband of his Lover and Editor, Michele. He likes hanging out with kids while showing them God’s extravagance. He roams his community at night as a volunteer firefighter & EMT. By day, he owns and operates a sustainable, real food Bed & Breakfast and Coffeehouse in the Pacific Northwest.

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2 comments to Intentional Family

  • Amanda

    Intentional is the word I’ve been focusing on in the last several months with my family and it has made all the difference. Great post, it really helps me as a wife to see the “other” side.


  • I will be mulling and praying over these words. Praying over what I can do as a wife, intentionally, to focus on ministering to my husband as he stewards me, and how I can join him in that stewardship journey.


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